What does it take to achieve excellence in constellations work?
Growth in Mastery:
Advanced Constellation Training
Next Level Instruction, Practice, & Mentoring
for Advanced Students of Systemic Constellations Work
February – May, 2017
Live Training in Oakland, CA, USA
Online learning via video conferencing from your home
Plus: Optional Constellation Business Growth Integration
New start date! Registration open until Feb. 21st
Your work matters profoundly. So…
♦ Because so many are separated from the ancestors, and our world deeply needs ancestral roots and support.
♦ Because if you don’t find what you need to be a successful constellator, you can’t make a living doing it, and you might “drop out” to find something else that supports you.
♦ Because individuals are in all kinds of pain – depression, loneliness, chronic illness – that doesn’t get better because their issues aren’t being seen and treated as belonging to a larger traumatized system.
♦ Because part of the reason our cultures are troubled is because we have amnesia about our shared heart-breaking history.
♦ Because the world needs an alternative to “us vs. them”, and needs to re-discover our common ground.
♦ Because you have found a passion for constellation work that makes your heart sing, and to do it well, successfully and creatively would contribute to your sense of being whole, and help you be your truest self.
What are your dreams as a constellation facilitator?
Here are some of mine…
Confidence: To have deep confidence as a facilitator, so that when you open a constellation, you can trust yourself to find your way through the twists and turns of your client’s system.
Wisdom: To have a deep and expansive understanding of constellations that makes it possible to talk about them in any context, with different people, with a wide variety of issues and needs.
Creativity: To be instinctively innovative, so that you can bring constellation work to many different situations and develop creative solutions to new problems.
Resourcefulness: To have a deep well of tools and approaches that can address personal issues, organizational needs, social problems, and many other contexts for constellation work.
Security: To have a growing practice with a steady supply of clients, a solid foundation for your business, and a secure income.
Leadership: To have stature in the larger field of constellations that is developing in parallel with your personal growth as a facilitator.
If you share any of these dreams, I invite you to keep reading…
What stands in the way?
When I go to constellation events, I meet many colleagues who have trained but are still struggling with their confidence as a facilitator, growing their business, talking about what they do, or all of the above. When I ask them about their experience, I notice a few consistent issues:
♦ They haven’t had enough opportunity to practice with supportive, insightful coaching from a skilled trainer/facilitator.
♦ Although their training addressed some important issues that needed healing, often it didn’t address the kinds of personal issues that stand in the way of confident, bold facilitating.
♦ They haven’t had the support they need to find out the unique constellator they are meant to be – not a copy of a teacher, but the “special sauce” they have to bring to the work and which brings them joy.
♦ Finally, they often haven’t had any instruction about how to build their practice and develop skills at attracting clients.
All of these are key elements for anyone who wants to achieve mastery as a constellation facilitator.
When I first started constellations (talk about dreams!)…
In 2007, I participated in my first constellation. I took part in dozens – perhaps even hundreds – of constellations before taking my first constellation training in 2009. It was a wonderful training, but it was short, only three months, with only one opportunity for live practice with feedback. It also had a great study group, where we all practiced together on our own, but it only lasted the length of the training.
However, I brought a lot of other life learnings to that moment. I had been a parish minister for 15 years, and during that time I developed a rock solid confidence – through thousands of sermons and worship services – that I could lead large (and sometimes challenging) groups through powerful shared experiences. I’d done lots of teaching and counseling and planning and praying with others. I’d been through three years of seminary training and a year-long hospital chaplaincy that provided me with specific feedback on my work, and exposed me to the most vulnerable moments in human life: death, birth, marriage, divorce, and so much more. These were all critical preparations for my constellations work.
Which is why I felt ready to start leading constellations (at a low price!) upon my training. I can’t imagine having done it without those experiences. And, it was a while before I was charging anything like “full price” for my work – I knew I was still an apprentice. Through those first months and years, I struggled with how to talk about the work, how to attract clients, and how to build a reliable business I could rely on. In many ways, my learning was just starting.
But over the years, I received more experience and mentoring. For details on all the amazing international people I’ve trained with, see my About page. From each facilitator and trainer, I received a critical insight into our work, and I was intentional about applying and integrating those insights into my daily client work, so that I could grow as a constellator. I also kept receiving constellations, as well, so that I could continue to grow personally, as well as witness different ways of doing the work. Finally, I ended up investing in business growth programs and coaching, as I realized that business requires learning just like constellations. With all of those added experiences, my practice solidified, grew, and prospered.
As a wise man once said, you can’t learn skiing by reading a book. And you can’t learn constellations by reading about it or without an opportunity for feedback, coaching and support. My dream for you is to have the kind of training you need to constellate confidently and boldly, in service to your clients, and in service to your goals for your professional life.
How mastery is achieved…
For the master, surrender means there are no experts. There are only learners. ― George Leonard from his book
Of course, we never really achieve mastery. Even the black belt in martial arts isn’t never done learning, and “master” is a term someone else gives to us, not one we can ever claim on our own. But the path to mastery is an old and beautiful one, as George Leonard reminds us.
So, with humility, we pursue mastery through:
♦ Ongoing learning
♦ Fearless and consistent practice
♦ Thoughtful, loving, useful and well-timed feedback
♦ Personal and peer reflection
♦ Trying new things in a spirit of adventure, fun, and creativity
♦ Openness to failure and asking questions
What is “advanced” about this training? Who is it for?
This training is for people who want to become masterful, grow their confidence, develop a secure practice, and move beyond their current limits as constellators, all in a safe, secure, adventurous environment of exploration and inquiry.
An advanced training assumes that participants have basic knowledge about constellations, and some experience facilitating, even if it’s been as gifts for friends and family, or experimenting with other students. This creates a powerful experience of collegial community, that allows not only for high level mentoring, but also high level peer interactions and connections.
This means that most participants in this course will have taken some kind of a constellation training, but a few may be what we might call “advanced representatives” who’ve participated in so many constellations and workshops that they have integrated a lot of constellation learning. If you aren’t sure if it’s the right match for you and your level of experience, please reach out to me, and let’s find out.
Many participants will also want healing for issues that seem to stand in the way of achieving their best abilities as constellators. Sometimes, we need healing to move through fear of failure, crippling lack of confidence, an inclination to be invisible, and other patterns that can stand in the way of becoming the constellators we want to become.
From the beginning, this training will identify the specific personal issues participants want to focus on that impact their facilitating; then, the training will include this healing work so that they can move forward in building their practice.
Generally, students in this course want to go to the “next level,” and feel that:
♦ Despite their training they lack confidence in their facilitation skills.
♦ They want the ability to innovate and “create on the spot” on behalf of their clients.
♦ They want to take a deep dive with fellow constellators who are committed to excellence in the work, and have a profound peer learning experience.
♦ They are ready to find out the unique constellator they are meant to be.
What is the course content?
The Orders of Love: A deeper appreciation for and understanding of Bert Hellinger’s Orders of Love, how to notice which Orders are out of balance in a client’s system, and how to work with these imbalances more intentionally.
Some Advanced Psychology: Understanding the current knowledge about trauma, attachment theory, and other psychological material that’s important when working with clients with a variety of personal issues.
Client Care: How to tend to your client throughout the process, from the logistics of client interactions; to noticing how the work is landing for a client, so your work isn’t getting too far out ahead of your client; to empowering client resilience.
Organizational Constellations: An exploration of what’s different about organizational systems, especially when organizational issues collide with family issues.
Facilitator Stance: Noticing when you are entangled with a client’s system, how to work with that, and even how to make it an advantage for the resolution of your client’s constellation.
Diverse Formats: Learning about the many different formats there are for working with constellations, from group to individual, from live to virtual, from large group to mini-constellations, and more.
Nature Constellations: Experiencing the amazing power of doing constellations in nature, and learning how the natural environment expands the possibilities of systemic constellations work.
Social Issues: Noticing when social issues (racism, classism, sexism, etc.) are at work in a client’s system (in addition to ancestral issues), and how to work with them. Also, how to do “social issues constellations” focused more on larger social issues for the benefit of all, and understanding the possibilities and limitations of these kinds of constellations.
The Larger Constellations Community: Being introduced to the larger world of constellations and the amazing opportunities for learning and contributing, as a way to become a stronger practitioner as well as building your professional profile in the constellations community.
Innovation: Being creative with constellations to meet the needs of different clients and different delivery formats (workshops, consultations, large audiences, etc.).
Your Unique Facilitator Self: Discovering your special way with constellations, and growing that into both a personal sense of ownership, and a “brand” that can resonate with clients.
Optional – Practical Business Learning: For participants who decide to add the Business Growth Integration option (see below), learning about business basics as well as your own business blind spots so that you can launch into a successful constellation practice quickly, or grow a business that may be struggling.
What will you get from this training?
This training includes:
♦ Four 3-day live workshops in Oakland, focusing on mentored constellation practice.
♦ Four 2-hour online classes, focused on instruction, sharing, and trying new techniques.
♦ Two 1-hour 1:1 coaching sessions for personal feedback and healing work.
♦ Recordings of all classes and sessions.
♦ Attendance at constellation gatherings with my clients, which will serve to enhance the practical learning aspect of the course.
♦ An online study group for students to practice and support each others’ growth.
♦ A Facebook group for conversation, asking questions, sharing challenges, and keeping our work playful!
♦ 15% off of all other programs I offer during the length of the training, including more personal work if you want that.
♦ An integrated, concurrent business growth course for participants wanting to learn business skills and heal what stands in the way of a thriving constellation practice (see details below).
Why is some of this training live in Oakland?
As we’ve already noted, you can’t learn skiing by reading a book. And it might also be said, you can’t learn skiing through an online course, no matter how good. Eventually, you have to get on a hillside and get live coaching from someone who’s done it before and knows how to help you with the nuances.
The same is true for constellation work. You have to do it with other bodies to deepen your somatic perceptions. You also have to do it in a live way so that you can try things out, practice, get feedback and then try something new. That’s true whether you are starting at the beginning, or taking a your work to a new level.
Finally, although support comes in many forms, there’s nothing quite like being with fellow adventurers and colleagues on the path of learning. As a result, part of this training does require a period of time in residency at the training site in Oakland, CA, USA.
Why is some of this training live online?
Ah, because we can! The technology for connecting is getting better every day, and as long as we match the interaction properly with the technology, it helps us extend the learning and connecting at a much lower cost.
For instance, we can shift a lot of the traditional constellation learning to online gatherings, so that we can keep the residential parts of deep connecting, practicing and interacting. Technology also makes it possible to connect with other participants and practice together between residential parts of the course.
What is the optional constellations business growth integration?
This option is for participants who need the support to grow their business. What’s special about it is that it’s concurrent and fully integrated so that you can build your practice as you’re participating in the advanced course. Why is that important?
Most people want to start their practice, and earning money, as soon as they finish a training. Unfortunately, what most of them discover that they simply don’t know how to do that. Building a business and attracting clients requires skills just like constellating does. And, many people find that they run right into their personal issues as soon as they start trying to build a business – things like fear of success, challenges with charging, difficulty with marketing, a natural reticence that makes talking about themselves hard, and much more.
In my experience, the people who do the best growing their practices have a sense that business and sharing their work is deeply integrated – they aren’t fundamentally separate. They can feel the natural urge to contribute their work to the “sacred marketplace,” and have the skills to make that happen.
This integration includes what you need to get started building your business upon the completion of the course:
♦ Basic business knowledge and skills for a new or struggling constellations practice, including marketing, branding, selling, pricing, business systems, and more.
♦ A heart-based understanding of business that makes it a joy to pursue, in full alignment with your constellations work.
♦ Healing personal issues that stand in the way of doing well in business.
♦ A strong sense of your mission as a constellator, so that you can share that with potential clients in clear, compelling and joyful way.
Here is what is included in this optional integrated coursework in addition to what’s included in the Advanced Training:
♦ Four additional 2-hour online classes for learning and growing in business together.
♦ Two additional 1-hour 1:1 coaching sessions to help you design your business, focus your brand, and heal personal issues.
♦ Four hours of business training videos that cover the basic material, and which you can keep and return to after the course is over.
You get all of this, plus everything that comes with the Advanced Training, for only $300 more.
Is it possible to register now for the Advanced Training, and decide later whether to add the Business Integration? Yes! Just make sure you add the Business Integration before the end of the Early Bird period (see below).
About Your Trainer
I received my initial Family Constellations training from NLP Marin in 2008. Since then I’ve trained with a wide variety of international Family Constellations trainers and experts in related fields: Dan Booth Cohen, Francesca Mason Boring, Jane Peterson, Heinz Stark, William Mannle, Jan Jakob Stam, Sarah Peyton, Gary Stuart, Vlado Ilic, Barbara Morgan, Carol Erickson, Anngwyn St. Just, Marianne Franke-Gricksch, Cecilio Rogojo, Guni Baxa, Judith Hemming, Elena Veselago, Ingala Robl, and many others.
In 2015, I finally realized a dream when I attended a life-changing training with Bert and Sophie Hellinger in Mexico City. With the founder of Family Constellations work, I realized how much more we all have to learn from our elders. It was an honor to watch him work in such a practiced and elegant way.
Later that year, I organized the 2015 North American Systemic Constellations Conference in San Diego. This has led to expanding my relationships and work on an international level, attending the international Constellation Intensive in Bernried, Germany, and now supporting the work of the International Systemic Constellations Association (ISCA); I attended and presented at its conference in Croatia in 2016. I have also presented at all US conferences since 2011.
I have been in private practice since 2009, working with individuals and couples, applying Family Constellations principles and practices in a wide diversity of situations: marital trouble, depression, addiction, fertility issues, food problems, anxiety, employment and money challenges, and much more. I lead a constellations group in Berkeley that has been meeting every 2-3 weeks for seven years. At the same time, I’ve led many short workshops and longer change work programs and trainings.
I am also an ordained Episcopal minister, and have worked in the tender and personal place where spirituality and day to day life meet for over twenty years.
So, how much does it cost?
Early Bird Registration (through January 27th):
Advanced Training – $2295
Advanced Training + Business Growth Integration – $2595
Regular Registration (after January 27th):
Advanced Training – $2545
Advanced Training + Business Growth Integration – $2845
Calendar (subject to change):
Four 2-Hour Online Classes: 6 – 8p Pacific Time, Tuesdays. Dates: February 21st, March 14th, April 18th, May 16th.
Optional: Four 2-Hour Online Business Classes: 6-8p Pacific Time, Tuesdays. Dates: First meeting TBA, then March 28th, May 2nd, May 23rd.
End of Early Bird Bonus (get a free constellation, a $275 value): January 4th
End of Early Bird (save $250!): January 27th
Start of Program: February 21st
About lodging for the live weekend workshops…
Lodging is not included for the live workshops. Participants are responsible for finding a place to stay in the Bay Area during the three-day weekends, and for getting to the workshop from their location.
However, we are happy to put you in contact with local participants in case an arrangement can be made (not guaranteed). We also recommend Airbnb as an affordable alternative to more expensive hotels and motels. Private rooms in local homes for under $50 a night can be found within walking distance.
Finally, there is a motel across the street from the the venue, for participants who are comfortable with budget motels.
A note about the video conferencing:
Part of this training will be conducted on-line. So the platform we use is very, very important. All video conferencing will use Zoom, a high quality, very reliable and, most important, easy-to-use platform. No technical knowledge is required. It allows for full interactivity, as well as “meeting room” breakouts which make small group exercises possible. For more information, go to Zoom.us.
There is no extra cost for participants to use Zoom. It does require reliable internet access and a webcam. If these are not available (or there is a technical problem for one of the workshops), there is a phone-based option to participate by audio.
A few more reasons to register:
…if you are eager to dive more deeply into constellations and explore mastery;
…if you need support and encouragement;
…if you want to connect with amazing constellation colleagues;
…if you want to change the terms of your growth as a practitioner;
If you want to remember the beauty of your work and why it matters: to you, your clients and the world…
Still on the fence?
I understand. It’s a big investment, and you want to make sure it’s right for you. Please contact me as soon as possible with your questions to see if this is what your business has been waiting for. Contact me at email@example.com.
Refund Policy: Full refund until 72 hours before start time of first 2-hour online class. After that, the deposit is non-refundable. If you need to leave the course at any time for any reason, you will not be billed for the remaining payments, but there is no refund of payments to that point in time. If you paid in full and must leave the training, you will be refunded in a prorated fashion as if you were a payment plan participant.