When is it time to dive in deeply, and when is it time to just check things out? I’ve become convinced that an ability to discern which is which is one of the skills that makes us mature, healthy, happy, adventurous adults who can really serve others.
Personal Example #1: I was in my 20s, living in a flat in San Francisco with my girlfriends. I had a scooter (ah! bliss! being in your 20s with a scooter in SF!), which needed some mechanical care, so I took it to a garage. There I met someone who, I admit, I found kind of “cute.”
I came home to my roommates and, as we always did, I reported this encounter. They breathlessly asked, “Did you get his number? Are you going on a date?” And I responded, “No, he was cute, but I don’t think he’s really a match for me.” To which my very, very wise roommates said, “Leslie! You’re not getting married! You’re going on a date!!!” Exactly, foolish girl. I couldn’t believe how ridiculous I’d been.
Sometimes, the moment calls for just checking things out.
Personal Example #2: I’ve been hiking in the Bay Area for many years. I love to hike 5-7 miles, observing birds, taking nature photographs, feeling what the wide open spaces do for my energy and spirit. And then going back home, making dinner and watching TV as usual.
I belong to the Sierra Club, and browsing their offerings, I saw a base camp trip in the Sierras. We’d do a long hike to our camp, the mules would take our gear (yes!) and we’d do day hikes while we were there. Just more hiking, right?
But what I didn’t know was the difference between hiking only a few hours away from civilization and back again in a day, versus going out into the mountains and staying there for a week. It’s not just hiking. It was backcountry camping, and I was hooked. Since then, I’ve been working on building my skills and fitness so I can do it for real (without mules).
Sometimes, the moment calls for diving in deeply.
- What in your life is calling you to just check things out?
- What in your life is calling you to dive in deeply?
- And what might you do to take a step toward either of those callings?
I’ve always tried to be sensitive to the needs of clients: some of you need to just check things out with my work, so you read an article, sign up for a free consultation, attend a constellation for $5, or take part in some other simple offering.
And, I’ve increasingly sought to meet the needs of clients who want to dive in deeply. As always, I continue to offer the “check it out” stuff. And, this season, I am especially making offers to those of you who are really, really ready to dive in deeply.
Here are the two main ways I invite you to dive deeply, if you are ready:
The Advanced Constellation Training (starting soon!) is for people who want to really get into the heart of constellations and/or who want to develop true mastery in this work.
The West Coast Intensive (super early bird ending soon!) is for people who want a beautiful and profound experience of being in healing community with constellations as our guide.
So, how about you? When have you stayed with “just checking it out” and it led you to something new and wondrous? And, when have you changed gears and dived deeply, moving into the depths of experience? I’d love to hear your stories.
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