For much of my adult life, I admit, I had a decidedly childish relationship with my finances. I ignored them as much as I could, and when I did deal with them, it was usually at the last minute or entirely too late. I am embarrassed about the amount of money I wasted on late fees, lost opportunities, and ignorant spending as a result of having no awareness of my financial situation.
About two years ago, I suddenly felt inspired to sit down and start exploring my finances. Over the course of about three months, I informed myself about my situation, and gradually put things in order, creating systems, getting advice, and gaining clarity.
After years of struggle, I was surprised this simply was not such a big deal. Yes, it had a learning curve, but it was all learnable, and anything that required more than I knew I could get help with. In fact, I stumbled on an amazing discovery: managing my finances responsibly was interesting and fun. Wow.
For the last few weeks, I’ve been reflecting with you about how we are of infinite worth, and how that can get distorted in our lives and in our families.
How about for business? Many of you on my email list are yourselves alternative practitioners and coaches, or in business of one sort or another. What does it mean when struggles with worth show up in business?
Frankly, it’s almost impossible to be in business if we don’t have some sense of of our infinite value, at a deep, unconscious level. What trouble can that cause?
- A tendency to undercharge, or to attract clients who say they can’t afford your work.
- Excessive indebtedness.
- Consistently poor income.
- Worry and anxiety about money that makes enjoying your work almost impossible.
- Struggles with financial management that make the necessary ongoing maintenance of your business really difficult.
- An inability to market, be seen, and share the word about what you do.
Sometimes, these problems are big enough to prevent success and/or joy in your work. At that point, we inevitably wonder if it makes sense to give up, change direction, or get a job instead of pursuing our passion.
Every day, I work with amazing practitioners who are really skilled at what they do, but they can’t share it because money issues are making it impossible for them to build their businesses consistently.
For some reason, I take it personally: when I see gifted practitioners, I really want them out there, doing what they do so well, without a lot of worry, and with enough confidence and joy that they can keep moving forward successfully. And when they can’t, it’s really frustrating for me.
Money problems like these are manifestations of struggles with worth in our families. Discouraged practitioners cannot just force their way through: they need insight into how things went so awry in their families, and they need a better way to belong than to lovingly continue the struggle.
When this happens, a new way appears. There’s no more struggle. We try, and it works, and we recover our confidence.
This is what happened to me two years ago, when suddenly, dealing with my personal and business finances became doable, interesting and fun. Believe me, before that point, I simply would not have believed it was possible, but now I know what I’ve always suspected: when we clear and complete old patterns, change becomes inevitable, a natural expression of our being.
This healing is possible through the power of family constellations. Want a taste? Join me for two free calls that are coming up this week! They are on July 3rd & 10th, 6-7p PT.
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