The #1 Key? Stop Beating Yourself Up…

Warning: gonna be silly for a sec. Don’t take it too seriously. Okay, here I go:

• Do you want to know the #1 key to finding a partner?
  
• Do you want to know the most important secret to succeeding in your business?

• Do you want to know what all the happiest and most financially satisfied people know?

Okay, I’m done with the masterful marketing titles. 😉 But there is something here that I think is really important.

I work with a lot of people who are trying to find the answer to how to get to where they want to go, whether it’s a soulmate or success in their business or financial security. And there really is an answer, but it’s not so much an answer, as a healing journey. The #1 key to all these goals is:

Self-rapport. Resilience. An inexplicable but deep sense of trust that–more or less–abides through the ups and downs.

If you don’t have self-rapport, it’s unlikely that the really expensive program to build a six-figure business is going to work. It just won’t. It doesn’t matter very much how good it is.

But if you have self-rapport, not only do you have a better way to evaluate what might help you move forward, but once you decide, you’ll be able to make much better use of it.

And when things don’t go so well, you don’t collapse or freak out or hate yourself or…

Instead, you feel what you feel (which can be hard) but you still feel like yourself and that you are supported and okay and can learn and move on.

Unfortunately, so many of us have had a hard past that taught us NOT to trust ourselves that way. And not trusting ourselves sort of worked for a while. It made us feel like there was something we could fix, and if we fixed it, all would finally be well.

The problem with that plan is fairly obvious: It requires us to remain against ourselves to ever have any hope of fixing ourselves. Rats!

Here is the deal: self-rapport (mostly) precedes things working easier, not the other way around.

People who are learning that they are okay, learning, and fully human start making better choices, attract better support into their lives, and can get into action about what they want better than when they were so against themselves.

While I am teaching business nuts and bolts to people, coaching them on next steps, and leading them through healing exercises, the main thing I am teaching them is this one great gift: self-rapport. To stop beating the crap out of themselves, and stop looking for saviors and discover what an astonishing and good-enough person they are.

This changes everything. Yes, the business knowledge matters. And yes, the healing matters. But the most important thing I give people, over and over, throughout all my programs, is the deep-down feeling of knowing: I am lovable, I am okay, maybe life is mostly workable.

And things start getting better.

Do you want a taste of trusting yourself more? I invite you to reach out to contact me about any of my programs and services (business or non-business), and let’s talk.

And if you self-employed (or wanting to be), suspecting that maybe you really need some of this self-rapport stuff to move forward, please check out my business growth programs that are starting really soon. Then, contact me to find out more.

What is your experience self-rapport? Please share your thoughts and comments below.