I don’t believe in guaranteed “miracle cures,” whether of the conventional medical sort or of the alternative healing kind.
But we all know miracle cures sometimes happen. The question is: When do do they happen? Often, the cause is mysterious. But sometimes, truly, it’s not so mysterious. Because “miracle cures” can happen when there is a perfect match between our issue and the approach being used to address it…finally.
This may seem obvious, but it’s actually a critical insight for issues that are resisting resolution. There are myriad problems that, systemically, we don’t offer the correct solution. Examples: Prison for drug addiction. Shaming for people dealing with weight issues. Exercise for people who have Chronic Fatigue. Funneling public funds into private schools to fix public education. Ah, it’s a long list!
Two nights ago, we gathered again in Berkeley for my regular constellation evenings. A participant shared how, as a life-long and committed meditator, he’d tried for years to address a personal problem. As he put it, despite his years of commitment, he just couldn’t get to the core of what was going on, with no improvement. Then, he said, he had a constellation, and in one session, the issue was both revealed, and resolved. Miracle Cure!
Truly, Family Constellations is no more a miracle cure than any other approach to healing. However, when it’s applied to the issues that it’s a good fit for, especially those that are conventionally treated in other ways without result, it can, indeed feel miraculous. For another example, watch this video:
Why can Constellations sometime feel like a miracle cure? Because so often, as in the above examples, we are trying to address a problem that seems personal, and which our culture tells us is personal, and for which our culture offers personal solutions, which simply aren’t personal at all:
- We are depressed because our family has a long-standing trauma, generations old, that hasn’t been addressed or integrated.
- We our anxious because our ancestors experienced terrible danger that ended in tragedy.
- We are in a constant rage because of a perpetration against or by our family which was never addressed.
- We are filled with daily shame and guilt because of an old violation that couldn’t be seen at the time.
- And much more…
None of these can be dealt with in personal ways. Constellations gives us access to addressing the systemic, collective “holding” of these issues, so that we find ourselves automatically releasing the emotions that were never ours (or at least, mostly weren’t ours) to begin with.
My upcoming Six-month Constellation Training is for anyone who wants to experience this kind of deep healing, and/or wants to integrate this approach into their own healing work for others. I can honestly say: there is nothing quite like it. And it is often the approach that we’ve been waiting for. In fact, if I may be so bold, in many ways it’s the work that our entire culture (with all of it’s systemic divisions, wounds and tragedies) is waiting for.
In addition, for those of you who don’t live in the Bay Area, I have a few openings to participate via online platforms. These openings are very limited, so contact me ASAP if you are interested.
Finally, the early bird has been extended a few days, so you can still save $125 through this Friday, September 14th. The training starts on September 23rd, so now is the time to connect with me to ask your questions and dive in!
What’s your experience of systemic healing? You are invited to continue the conversation on my blog here.
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