The election last week was really rough for me. I hope no one on my email list or reading my blog will be surprised or offended if I admit that.(If you are a Trump supporter who is really happy about the outcome, first, congrats, and second, I hope you can have some patience with those […]

As a Westerner, I’ve always been taught that the past creates us, and we create the future. That we are who we are because of our pasts, and the future is what we make of it. But what if that isn’t true? What if, instead, the future creates us, and we create the past? Right […]

Today is Indigenous People’s Day (Columbus Day) in the United States. And, in a few days I am leaving for two weeks in Croatia, where I will be attending the gathering of the International Systemic Constellations Association in Zagreb, in addition to doing a little vacationing. What do these two things have in common? In […]

Including leads to clearing. What do I mean by that? For those of us sensitive to energy, we often want to find a way to “clear” that energy so a situation can feel better. The images that can come to mind might be sweeping away dust, or opening windows so smoke can clear out, opening […]

In many ways, I and many of my clients belong to a culture that has had its ancestors stolen from us. If you belong to a culture where you don’t feel this, I envy you. The bonds we have with those who have died are natural and intense. Although these bonds are, in a sense, […]

Belonging is one of the most basic needs we have. Without it, we would be lost in a dangerous world with no protection from others. Without it, we lack the basic social connections we need to feel safe and well and whole. Without it, frankly, it’s hard to know who we are. We all belong […]

Imagine what it would be like for life to be like this: Almost every time your partner tries to talk to you about something sensitive, you are certain it’s about to be over and you’ll never have another partner again. It’s difficult to manage your emotional swings, from hatred at yourself, to fury at others. […]