Inner Conflict: That exquisite pain we experience when we are fighting with ourselves. It can be blatant: I want to have the second piece of pie AND I want to lose weight. I want to pursue my career in New York City AND I want to live near my friends and family in the Bay […]
Why Will Power Doesn’t Work
Do you get Facebook postings like these? Along with pretty pictures, they try to encourage us with advice like: Taking one step at a time makes life easier to navigate rather than always looking at the big picture. When we learn to face our fears, we learn to observe our thoughts and feelings but not […]
Why Some Things Don’t Change
All of my clients come to me with painful, hidden patterns that won’t change, no matter what they do. Things like: They keep choosing partners who don’t respect them. They can’t find success in their work. They can’t make enough money to be secure financially. They struggle with depression or anxiety. In my last blog, […]
How Past Pain Persists into the Present…or Not
So much of present day unhappiness for my clients is due to past events that are completely over and done with. This is deeply frustrating, but it is utterly compelling—we can’t just drop that past pain by saying so, even as we realize that it does no good to keep having it. It’s like a […]
Turn Secret Unhappiness Into Authentic Joy
What does big change look like as it’s in process? Especially with things that are stuck, hidden, or deeply patterned? How do we know change is actually happening? Sometimes change shows up in a linear or simple way: there, it happened, suddenly it’s different, exactly the way I wanted. Sometimes change happens that way. But […]
Getting Untricked About Your Inner Light
Thank you to all of my clients and supporters for your courage and growth in 2011. My business has grown a great deal, and you are the ones to thank for that. I offer you a different kind of gift, a meditation/poem/wool-gathering I’ve written about the times we are in, and how we are invited […]
The Cure for the Holiday Blues
This is a season for a different kind of intelligence. The more I think about it, it is during the winter holidays (at least in the northern hemisphere) when the Unconscious seems to have more say over our lives and insists on sharing its wisdom. It’s a different kind of intelligence, though, as Carl Jung […]