For some time, it’s been assumed that the brain is the seat of cognition — our ability “to know.” But lately, it’s become clear that other physical systems are also necessary for cognition, especially our heart and our gut. Indeed, the entire body and its sensing systems seem to be critical for our ability to […]
Finding Healing with Real Spiritual Geniuses…
Today I am moved by the voice of one of our elders in the work of social justice, Ruby Sales: I grew up in the heart of Southern apartheid. [My] parents were spiritual geniuses who created a world and a language where the notion that I was inadequate or inferior or less-than never touched […]
Feelings Aren’t a Competition: Finding Emotional Balance
Today, I want to explore two important internal movements that can collide in us, and which can make moving forward in life difficult: 1) The first is the impulse that comes from old trauma for us to repeat old feelings that were understandable at the time of the traumatizing event, but which usually does […]
When Changing One Thing Changes Everything, or Changes Nothing at All…
Wherever you go, there you are, the old saying goes. In a sincere attempt to get ourselves out of a life-depleting rut, many of us move, or change our jobs, or leave a relationship, only to find we carry the same patterns with us into the new context. So frustrating! When that happens, we […]
Serpents & Doves: When We’re Not Sure, Moving Forward Anyway
When you receive this newsletter, I will be in the middle of a three week trip in northern New Mexico. But as I write, I am still two days from starting that trip. I am going partly for the same reason I spent three weeks in Utah – to rest into Sabbath time, to have […]
Fathering & Being Fathered: Trusting Guidance?
What should I do? So many of my clients come, stuck with this question. It comes in infinite forms: Should I start my business or get more learning? Should I reach out to my family, or stay away from them? Should I let go of the life I’ve gotten comfortable with begin something new? […]
Fathering & Being Fathered: Healing Our Capacity for Action
Many of us, even as adults, struggle to take powerful action. It might be in a specific area of our lives – work, relationships, social justice – or it may feel like it is in almost all areas. Many things influence our capacity for adult, focused action, but one important influence is our personal and […]