Patterns.
Some people in my line of work might say that patterns are what all change work comes down to: Patterns you have that you don’t want, and the new patterns you’d prefer. If something is a one-time event, even if it was terrible, if it doesn’t create an unwanted new pattern (or intensify an existing one), people don’t usually come to me for help.
As true as that is, patterns go much, much deeper. There are the patterns of nature: tides, plant leaves, snail shell whorls, the cycles of the seasons. And there are the patterns we humans seem to be compelled to make, even in the midst of randomness, like when we create the constellations in the sky or pile stones into cairns.
Some anthropologists say that what distinguishes humans is our propensity for seeing, creating, and thinking about patterns.
Healers and spiritual teachers have long prescribed the sick and despairing to engage with beautiful patterns: labyrinths (see my logo), rituals, mantras, dances, cycles of prayer, not only for their content, but also because engaging in life-giving patterns seems to deeply re-organize and therefore heal.
So it’s always interesting when a pattern gets over-turned or up-ended. In some ways, that’s what my work is all about–finding the “third way,” the unexpected re-frame, the new, life-giving pattern that the current pattern couldn’t allow us to see.
Occasionally, a new pattern shows up in our lives that feels so “right,” we almost can’t tell it’s new. That’s wonderful.
But other new patterns, like new music in a modality we’ve never been exposed to, can’t be easily understood, perceived, or integrated. Such a new pattern at first can feel chaotic, wrong, disturbing, or confusing. So, it needs to keep flinging itself at us (like new music listened to many times) until we can perceive it’s meaning and feel its beauty.
Have you experienced one of these? Is there any chance one of them is showing up now in your life? Hmmm….
Well, it seems to be happening to me. Lately, alternative healers and coaches keep approaching me and asking me, how did I do it? How did I create a viable business? They ask me, not because I seem so amazingly successful (although I am living well on my work–yay!), but, I think, because they perceive that I’ve used a different model for succeeding as a practitioner, and they’ve looked at other models, and they’re wondering, how did she do it?
As a result, I’ve tenderly dipped my toes into something new–not really business coaching, because I don’t really have that skill–but something more like:
- Using NLP and Family Constellations to discover and create your authentic business identity (aka “brand”)
- Identity level growth for the newly and tenderly self-employed
- Clearing ecology and old energies for thriving forward
- Finding a “true north” that can hold your integrity through the ups and downs
- Creative, joyful engagement with business learning and development
And perhaps above all:
- Becoming a practitioner that is successful while being fully in alignment with HOW you are becoming successful.
I’m still feeling this all out, with a great deal of surprise that this is what is emerging in my work. I am already leading a business development group where I am putting this all to the test, with five amazing practitioners are having a blast becoming the business owners they want to be. (More on that down the road.)
The immediate result are two more offerings, which you can see more about here. One’s free, and the other is an affordable one-day workshop. I hope you join me! Or, if you aren’t a practitioner, share this with others who are and who need support.
And whoever you are, and however you make your way, look out for the new patterns, the one’s that, just maybe, are about to make trouble in the most wonderful and challenging way possible…
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